In Life, there are three kinds of problems:
- big problems
- medium problems
- small problems
There is a 9.0 magnitude earthquake. Big problem.
The computer you use for work is broken. Medium problem.
Somebody on social media thinks you’re a jerk. Small problem.
Even though, we all tend to react to things differently, I am pretty sure that if we all take a step back and take a deep breathe together we would agree on what is a big, a medium and a small problem.
The question I am asking myself and I am asking you here is:
How should we react to each problem?
If I look back at my life, I realize that when there is a big problem, I am always heroic. What does that mean? It means that I do what the super-hero does in the movies, except that I don’t always kiss the girl at the end.
How do you react when there is a big problem?
When there is a medium problem, I realize that sometimes I react like a pro and sometimes I react like a victim. Sometimes, I got things under control, I address the problem and make a list of what I must do and it’s over. Some other times, I am overwhelmed and I just don’t know where to start. This probably depends on if I have some expertise in this medium problem (let’s say something related to health) or if I don’t have any expertise in this medium problem (let’s say something related to a software).
How do you react when there is a medium problem?
Lastly, paradoxically, I realize that when there is a small problem, I react like a child. Someone at work send me an unfriendly email and I block for hours, wondering why someone would act this way with me.
How do you react when there is a small problem?
I love being a hero sometimes and I love looking like an expert at times. But I can’t stand that part of me that acts like a victim or like a child.
So I made up the following mantra and pasted it on my kitchen cupboard.
“Like a Hero,
Like a Pro,
Like a Sage”
Good for me, I already know how to react like a hero (when there’s a big problem).
Now, when there is a medium problem, I just need to react like a pro. No emotions, no wondering, just do, just ask, just solve. Game over.
And when there is a small problem, I need to be what I’ve always dreamt to become: someone wise, someone sage, someone who can take a step back and ignore gracefully, laugh politely at those small problems.
“Like a Hero. Like a Pro. Like a Sage”
Which problems do you struggle the most in terms of your reactions?
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